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"Who Am I?" "Why Am I Here?"

There’s a famous quote attributed to Mark Twain that goes like this:

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”

I love this quote.

But, besides being an admirer of Mark Twain’s genius as a writer, I’ve been inspired in more recent years by the “inner work” that he did. When the family trust finally released his autobiography 100 years after his death in 2010, I listened to it in audiobook form and it was a revelation.

He dictated much of it from his bed or porch the last 10 years of his life. The book contains the journal-style, reflective way he thought of his life and everything in it. Through this intimate foray into Twain’s remarkable memories, he describes in his words certain recollections, and also actively revises, dreams and wonders out loud, creating in the process a divinely jumbled process that evokes his own experiences and feelings as though he is both reliving them, and also possibly editing them!

The net effect for me: it was like sitting in the room with him listening to the inner workings of his mind.

What a delight.

Being a life coach is a little like that for me now, too, with my clients.

I have the incredible privilege of listening to you tell the story of your life. And, to help you learn to understand your own inner world, while you concurrently express it in the real world. You are the author of your life story.

It’s undeniable: no one else on the planet is like you. And because authenticityliving an authentic life, your "best life"involves continual growth and self-knowledge, understanding, a life coach can help you define the WHO and WHY of your life.


One of the exercises we engage clients in is developing their own life purpose statement. So those two questions, “who am I?” and “why am I here?” can truly be answered.


Wait, what? You mean, it’s possible to write out your life purpose? Um, yes.

It’s part art and part science—it’s definitely a creative process but it has structure to it. I guide you to use your mind, body, and soul, and not just what your intellect alone tells you to want.

With a purpose statement exercise, I help you first understand a couple of things:

1. Whether or not you are conscious of it, you have been living